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This poem forms part of my Out of the Shadows  collection. It was written before I met Jenn and is shaped by searching, heartbreak, identity, and survival. Have you ever looked at the marvels of ancient civilizations and wondered, ‘How did they do it?’ From the precision of the pyramids to the cosmic alignment of ancient wells, our ancestors achieved feats that still leave us in awe. But have we, in the age of technology, lost something profound in ourselves? These questions form the core of De-evolution—a reflection on humanity’s journey, our potential, and the powers within us. All the while I marvel at the brilliance of our ancestors and all they achieved, from the Sumerians to the Egyptians and all of the other civilizations that have advanced humanity. How did they achieve the things they did? Did they have help from the outside? Or did they tap into their INSIDE and use abilities we don't even know we have? Jenn and I have talked at length many times about these so-called 'abilities.' From manifestation to energy to vibes, there are just so many ways we can change our realities without any dependence on others. We are fooled into the notion that we need our governments and society to flourish, but the truth is that as a collective, we favor the few on behalf of the many. Yet there is something that can change the game. Something innate inside of us that, once tapped into, can LITERALLY change, shape, and mold our lives into whatever we desire. Now THAT is something that the 'few' have learned how to suppress in us. From the outside! The Baalbek Stone [Photo credit - middleeasteye.net ] Is it possible to carve, lift, and shift a giant rock that weighs 300 tonnes like at Baalbek (Lebanon) as part of a construction project? Thousands of years ago? Could it be possible? Maybe the question is not HOW they moved it. More like why. For example, 3000 years ago, people constructed a well at Santa Cristina that is aligned with a solar event that occurs once every 18 and a half years. The Santa Cristina Well, Sardinia, Italy When the moon is at its highest point in orbit, it does so directly above this place, shining through a 2 ft hole to illuminate a perfectly cylindrical well into a glowing white magical chamber. There are so many questions attached to the reasons this place exists, but back to my point. Like damn, they were using their MINDS to do all this stuff I could barely even do in my dreams. I can just about remember my PIN, and that's only 4 digits! Me? Move a rock? Manifest my desires? Somehow figure out how to build a place that could do who knows what? Well, that's a fantasy, a movie, a pipe dream. So they say. But perhaps there was once a time when these powers were unimpeded... Life begets life. Energy becomes energy. It is by spending oneself that one becomes rich - Sarah Bernhardt So this piece is about the connection to our past, our connection with technology today, and how we can change our realities in the future. We have the power within us, and even if modern living does not encourage that, we can still find it if we search deeply enough! I hope you enjoy the read! ADVERTISEMENT De-Evolution Egyptians, Mayans The great civilizations Way back when Way back then Out of nowhere (Relatively) They start building pyramids (Literally) Moving gargantuan stones and rocks Calculating Maths And clocks Precise measurements Pinpoint precision Feats of engineering Innate intuition They changed the face Of humanity They set the bar Of who we are to be Prosperity Art Society Begin Build Legacy A beacon A light Of what we could become Planet masters The best, bar none With no tech, they mastered this No help They started this Or maybe Who knows Hieroglyphs We know We've studied And wondered Marveled Reveled To this day we visit Their stunning legacy And so what next for us This new humanity What is next What shall we see Well, I guess the Egyptians Were the spark They were the start We learned And built Enhanced their teachings We built new empires Brilliant and fleeting For bad or worse For good or better We learned from their laws We still write their letters But for us Now maybe The de-evolution has begun For way back when Some dude pops up and says Hey Let's build a pyramid That will take over a thousand years Untold wealth Staggering masses of humanity Tremendously incredible engineering And a future-proof structural integrity For all of humanity To reveal and see Now I wonder What is meant to be Are we now losing our abilities Enslaved to technology Is this digital world The future story For have we left behind Our powers to compute In our minds, with no assistance Have we now embraced a time Where 'virtual' has no resistance Is this our new Shared existence AI is aligned And will only get stronger And the thoughts that we once thought Get less and less With less need to compute There is less need to think An even lesser need To use pen and ink So transfer your thoughts To the online device Free your mind From those stresses and vice Let the screen takeover This mini-computer It is what we need We need it the most So with my free mind I remembered to see A time I remember Of how it used to be Before the internet, you see We had no ability To be connected In any way I remember payphones Was the only way You would remember phone numbers Like it was your last day For you had to memorize To check in or seek help 11-digit numbers Etched into mind Now tech came along And freed that mind Tech came along Oh so kind And the friendly tech Can store and replace The friendly tech Can copy and paste Now I can't even remember A four-digit code That comes on a drop-down To be entered below I copy and paste For fear of forgetting And getting it wrong So I guess in some ways We have We have devolved Numbed down Just a little Subservient to our master Not the government But the tech pastors Preaching their desires Playing their worth We evolved out of nowhere Got whacked with the intelligent stick Time to pass on the baton We have run our race Let the tech takeover And take our place © Leon Gregori 2026 I believe we have powers beyond our wildest dreams that are vulnerable to being suppressed and dumbed down. I know that is no groundbreaking notion, but that's where the poem went towards the end! Tech, fluoride, haircuts, food, and water... so many channels into us that can dampen our powers (so I am told). Yet I have come to truly believe in manifestation and positive energy, and I genuinely feel desires coming into being every day. I am no expert, and I credit these discoveries entirely to Jenn! I love her even more (if that were possible) for it. Learning to understand is the translation for POTENTIAL. Potential, because every moment has potential. I should have the desire to activate and uncover it. The process is only hard until it isn't! To this day, I often struggle to believe I have the life I do. Waking up to new vibes every day with the love of my life is a path I imagined in the far reaches of my mind when I was younger. A place like the Wizard of Oz, walking hand in hand with my true love down some sort of yellow brick road with birds fluttering and crisscrossing above our heads as the clouds part to reveal a rainbow! That was some dream, but now it IS my reality with Jenn, and what's more, our traveling and path IS the yellow brick road! The more we reduce ourselves to machines in the lower things, the more force we shall set free to use in the higher - Anna C Brackett What do you think? Have we traded too much of our humanity for modern convenience, or does technology simply amplify what’s already within us? ⪢ Explore the Out of the Shadows collection Read more poems from an earlier era of writing shaped by searching, heartbreak, identity, and survival. → View all Out of the Shadows poems See More From Leon... Conscience Explore the inner workings of the conscience. Delve into the balance between morality, instinct, and self-awareness captured through poetry. About Leon Gregori I've been writing poetry since my mid-teens and find it natural to express myself through words. My long-form content focuses on themes of heartbreak and life. Poetry Resources

This poem forms part of my Aftermath  collection, poetry written after meeting Jenn, where love, reflection, and emotional clarity began to replace chaos. Sadness can feel like an overwhelming force, consuming and unrelenting. But as a poet and creator, I see it as a canvas—a space to pour emotion, process pain, and create meaning. The Artist reflects my journey through those dark moments, painting feelings from the canvas of my mind. We are all artists, painting our lives upon the canvas of reality. Mix the colors your own way and apply emotion liberally. Don't be afraid to let your brushstrokes show, and above all else, make sure your art has soul - Cristen Rodgers ADVERTISEMENT The Artist Sitting Surmising My mind is frightening Like a belt tightening Around my neck This isn't exciting There isn't any lighting The sadness is coming I feel like running Yet the dark is cunning My legs are heavy Like bricks on my feet I guess I'm going nowhere So it is time to meet The internal motors That spark and clash Rip and smash Here is my interpretation My deepest sensation My lungs are heavy There is no challenge And no expectation I sense I know why I keep feeling this way How I look to avoid The hardest thing I've ever had to do To lose my feelings Of love for you I've longed for what we had Dreamt of good and bad My heart goes begging I lusted for the emotion Desired the commotion The feelings that inspired That dizziness Isn't painless It's the torture of my heart Like an art This love It messed with my insides Like a tray of paint Mixed up and colourful Reds, greys, and yellows Blues and greens The joyous wonder The darkening screams All those hopes Laid to waste Time to be emptied Gone is the taste The potential The drama All things karma My spirits dampen As my heart fades to black The artist has left us Our canvas unfinished The picture is open But thought has diminished Printed forever We will no longer be Our pitch cut off From reaching its ending And whilst I think of this My heart is so torn It feels like my tapestry Just stopped in its tracks And the painting is there The structure and foundation But the sky is unfinished And the house is half built Like a bankrupt fighter It leaves much to be desired Everything it hoped for Deep in the mire The mess is clear The solution is not so The artist behind the painting Where did he go And so there we are Left unfinished The applicators broken There is no more to write Or paint Or glow Or reach its potential Just no And hard memories are plentiful The only hope now Is for a brand-new canvas To manifest itself Be born from life's atlas The world is still here Despite all my fears I must top up my ink Empty my tears Refill my pots Regain my strength If I can do that I can make more sense This sadness has owned me Thrown off my game I have to release this Or forever stay the same © Leon Gregori 2026 How do you process sadness or loss? Do you turn to creativity, or do you find solace in other ways? I’d love to hear your reflections in the comments! ⪢ Explore the Aftermath collection Discover more poems written after meeting Jenn. My reflections on love, connection, creativity, and emotional clarity. → View all Aftermath poems See More... The Game This piece tackles the cyclical nature of modern life—eat, work, sleep, repeat—and how this relentless rhythm has shaped our humanity. About Leon Gregori I've been writing poetry since my mid-teens and find it natural to express myself through words. My long-form content focuses on themes of heartbreak and life. Poetry Resources

This poem forms part of my Aftermath  collection, poetry written after meeting Jenn, where love, reflection, and emotional clarity began to replace chaos. In June 2020, Jenn gave me one of the most unforgettable birthday surprises of my life: an all-expenses-paid weekend at a 5-star hotel in Montreal . From incredible food to countless moments of laughter and love, it was a celebration that I will never forget. Inspired by that weekend, I wrote What She Means to Me as a tribute to her, to us, and to the love we share. It was a special surprise, and I will never forget it. I can only hope my words can do justice to the love I feel, for the love we have, and the love we will have forevermore! Sorry for the sap, but I can't help it! Jenn in Cyprus, where we got engaged! "The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love." - Henry Miller These words perfectly encapsulate how I feel about Jenn and our journey together! ADVERTISEMENT What She Means To Me Tell my brain No refrain Can’t strain Our domain This is my aim No need to explain She brings me fame Bells and whistles Sparkling and glistening Always listening My sign My symbol She even has crystals Sprinkles and sparkles Her berth is my castle Energy Synergy The things she does to me For me With me She holds me tight Treats me right Every day And long through the night The shadows are cast Far far away We are taken Now is our play Here to stay This is our way Mainstay Each way Anyway Both ways Today For many years And years beyond Will speak these words Our darkness gone Only light Shall shine here now Erase these creases No furrowed brow Our essence is phenomenal Partners complete There is no past That can compete © Leon Gregori 2026 Have you ever felt this way about someone? I certainly hope so! ⪢ Explore the Aftermath collection Discover more poems written after meeting Jenn. My reflections on love, connection, creativity, and emotional clarity. → View all Aftermath poems You Might Also Like... Rise: Redefining Falling in Love Reimagine love in Rise. Explore the transformative journey of love as an ascent to new heights, breaking free from the gravity of past hurts. About Leon Gregori I've been writing poetry since my mid-teens and find it natural to express myself through words. My long-form content focuses on themes of heartbreak and life. Poetry Resources

Most people prefer companionship while traveling, but there is something about solo travel that is life-changing, a transformative experience, and an opportunity to navigate on your own. It is always suggestive to come out of the comfort zone to experience self-discovery and pure exhilaration. Solo travel means you are the commander of the trip, and you are tailoring the itinerary to your desires. In short, you can discover your rhythm and explore a gamut of experiences. In This Post... ● Dubai ● Thailand ● Japan ● Australia ● Spain ● Canada ● England ● Travel Resources World’s Best Solo Travel Destinations Unveiled Solo travel destinations the world over abound; thus, choosing one rests on the traveler’s budget and interests, as well as preferred experiences. Let’s see the world’s finest solo travel destinations at a glance: ⪢ Dubai Solo travelers can tour Dubai, as it is safe, has a minimal crime rate, and has a plethora of mind-blowing attractions. Exploring the City of Gold solo will be truly rewarding for the gamut of cultural experiences, dining with a view, cruises, massive shopping malls, and more. Once in Dubai, observing the Burj Khalifa and getting on board for the most excellent Dubai desert safari tours  is a mandate; after all, these are integral to the city’s essence. The bucket list also comprises the Dubai Mall, the Dubai Marina, Old Dubai, Dubai Parks & Resorts, the Dubai Creek, and more. Dubai also promises a pulsating nightlife. ⪢ Thailand Solo travelers rejoice. Get your Thailand visa , as Thailand never disappoints. With its cities brimming with life, colorful street markets, charming streets, and relaxing beaches, you are spoiled for choice. Head to Bangkok, the capital city, and you will be in awe at its ornate temples, convenient public transportation, deep culture, and vibrant nightlife. Do visit Wat Arun , the Grand Palace, and the Chatuchak Weekend Market. How can you forget Phuket, Thailand’s charm? Unwind at the pristine beaches of Patong, or try your hand at some water sports. Also, make the most of the night market and some delectable cuisine at a beachfront seafood eatery. Also, add Chiang Mai to the itinerary for some historic charm, arts, beautiful temples like Wat Phra, and Buddhist meditation retreats. ⪢ Japan Japan is much loved for its delectable cuisine, welcoming environment, deep culture, and above all, safety. Cities to explore here galore—Osaka, Tokyo , Hiroshima, Kyoto , and the like, with each having its distinctive specialty. Solo travelers will simply adore the futuristic skyscrapers as well as the neon-lit streets in Tokyo. The Tokyo Tower, Shinkansen, and Senso-ji Temple should not be missed. Kyoto, conversely, has created a niche for its tradition & history. Solo travelers do not miss Arashiyama’s bamboo groves, tea houses, the Gion district, and Kinkaku-ji ( UNESCO World Heritage site ). Once in Osaka, sample the city’s delectable cuisines and visit Universal Studios, Shinsaibashi, and Osaka Castle. While in Hiroshima, the Hiroshima Peace Memorial Park, Miyajima Island, and Hiroshima Castle are must-sees. ADVERTISEMENT ⪢ Australia This is another favorite when it comes to solo travel. What draws travelers to Australia is the friendly locals, iconic spots, and above all, the vibe, which is laid-back. Sydney is an ideal choice, as it is blessed with dazzling beaches like Bondi, the Sydney Harbour Bridge, the Surry Hills, and more. Melbourne is synonymous with its culture and art. Solo travelers can marvel at the exquisite street art, partake in live performances and events, and also explore Federation Square and St Kilda. Solo travelers take pleasure in epic road trips in Australia by visiting the Great Barrier Reef for underwater adventures, and if remote adventure interests you, head towards the Australian Outback. ⪢ Spain Spain is truly captivating for solo travelers of every interest. Visit Barcelona’s architectural masterpiece, Antoni Gaudí; shop at La Boqueria; take a lazy walk along Las Ramblas; or let loose on a beach. Get on board to Madrid for some gala nightlife at tapas bars or survey the historic landmarks like the Prado Museum. You can explore Chueca too for some boutique shopping. Also visit Seville for some wonders like Plaza de España, Seville Cathedral, or Maria Luisa Park. If you adore the water, head to the Balearic Islands for their awe-inspiring beaches and thrilling water sports. Also, partake in beach parties in Ibiza. Last but not least, the Moorish architecture in Granada is worth a visit. ⪢ Canada Solo travelers have a mammoth to explore in Canada , right from the European charm to being in nature’s lap. Vancouver is famed for its multicultural vibe and historic charm. Step into Stanley Park, visit trendy shops at Yaletown, or delve into deep history at Gastown. Visit Toronto for its dynamic urban experience. Toronto has endless options to offer solo travelers, including the CN Tower, the Distillery District, and Queen Street West for world-class shopping and dining. The theaters and galleries, as well as museums, also top the list. Then there is Banff National Park for satiating the outdoor buffs. Spot wildlife, go on hikes, or marvel at the beautiful mountains. Do not sideline the Icefield Parkway and Lake Louise . ⪢ England Solo travelers will fall in love with England for its endless possibilities waiting to be explored. Visit Buckingham Palace as well as the British Museum in London. Feel the uniqueness of Notting Hill or wander through Soho. The well-connected transportation makes every tour a breeze. Then there is Cambridge as well as Oxford, steeped in culture, abode to highly esteemed universities, and the quintessential English experience. Visit Bath Abbey in Bath and Tintagel Castle in Cornwall. Also, explore Stratford-upon-Avon, where William Shakespeare was born, along with other opportunities such as English pubs as well as tearooms. Wrapping Up The bottom line is, don't be afraid to travel solo. This world is all yours for exploration. Take a single baby step to get started, and there will be no looking back. Happy solo travels! Travel Resources Written by a Guest Writer for Closer Lives Travel & Lifestyle Blog

This fascinating museum is the largest of its kind in Albania and was host to the wonderful Galan Trio for what was a pretty awesome date night . Recommended by our Airbnb host, our visit was a last-minute impulse decision that we are most grateful to have made! The performance was excellent, as were the setting, ambience, and the very special meaning behind the music. In case you didn't know, we absolutely love history, and we are always attracted to museums . We had not planned on coming here before we arrived in Durrës, so the suggestion from our host was well received! Of course, the addition of a piano trio was a significant bonus and kind of typical of our travels; opportunities like this always seem to manifest, and we are most grateful for them! Read on for more on our fantastic experience here, including museum highlights, a video snippet of the Galan Trio performance, and more information on the special story behind the concert. In This Post... ● About the Museum ● Who Are the Galan Trio? ● The Ararat Concert ● How to Get There ● Our Experience Rating ● FAQs ● Travel Resources About the Archaeological Museum of Durrës The Archaeological Museum of Durrës in Albania was first opened in 1951 and has a collection of over 3000 artifacts. A vast majority are from the Greek and Roman periods, when the city was widely known as Dyrrhachium . Durrës was once a center of worship for the Greek goddess Venus, and such is the historical importance of some of the pieces that there are growing calls for this to become a national museum. It is currently operated by the Regional Directorate of Durrës Monuments. Funerary stele of Lucius Domitius The museum has a lovely vibe, and we both love Greek and Roman history, so we were in our element! The Archaeological Museum is a great place to observe the life of people in Durrës thousands of years ago. Alongside the aforementioned Greek and Roman collections, you can also find many Hellenistic and Byzantine artifacts that highlight the prominence of this region. All of the pieces have information detailed in English as well as Albanian, which we appreciated! There is a particularly large display of terracotta busts with artifacts referencing not just Venus but also the Greek goddess of love, Aphrodite. This was a welcome highlight for us, as we got engaged at Aphrodite's Rock in Cyprus and have always held a very high regard for this special goddess. Additionally, there are tons of coins, engraved tombstones, milestone markers, Roman & Greek statues, and even a kiln for baking clay! Not that you could tell today, but the museum itself suffered heavy damage from rioting and looting in the 1997 Albanian Revolution. Statue of Gaea, goddess of Earth. It was gradually restored but closed its doors for 4 years in 2011 for further upgrades and improvements. It continues to attract funding for further renovations and has enjoyed more exposure and prominence in recent years. Keep reading to find out more about the exciting Galan Trio , highlights of their performance , and a sneak peek of our other adventures in Albania. Who Are the Galan Trio? Galan Trio is a Greek band of 3 artists: Petros Bouras (piano), Dimitra Triantafyllou (violin), and Marina Kolovou (cello). Originally soloists, they came together in 2012 with a vision of performing classical music in a fresh new way. They include video art, light shows, and dancing to accompany their unique interpretations. In September 2018, Babis Karasavvidis became their new violinist. They have performed live in China, Greece, Armenia, and a host of other countries. Their debut album, 'Switch,' received critical acclaim and was broadcast around the world. They have shared the stage with a host of other major names in the industry, and 'Ararat' is the latest composition that they have released for their ever-growing audience. For upcoming events, the latest news, and more, check out the Galan Trio website here . ADVERTISEMENT The Ararat Concert This project has been performed in several countries around the Balkans and the Greek states, and its journey began 4 years ago. It is a beautiful concert underwritten by music created by no less than six different composers, all from different countries. To ensure cohesion and flow to the compositions, the theme 'Six Perspectives of Mount Ararat' was born. In Armenian, every element of the word 'Ararat' has a different meaning, which is represented individually by the composers. As stated on the concert program: 'The story of Noah's Ark, stranded on the slopes of Mount Ararat after long, aimless wandering. The most important thing in this story is hope. To keep hoping even when everything has sunk, disappeared, and nothing can be seen. But somewhere there is a mountain on whose flanks we might rest. Ararat is a symbol for all who believe in a life powered by indomitable hope.' - David Haladjian. The nearly 2-hour performance was flawless, and the journey and meaning were evident in each of the six pieces of music. We were completely enamored by the setting and the beautiful tones. The Galan Trio was superb, and we thoroughly enjoyed the Ararat Concert! How to Get to the Archaeological Museum of Durrës Located near the Adriatic coast in central Durrës, Albania, the Durrës Archaeological Museum is the largest of its kind in the country and sits just steps from the seaside promenade. It’s a must-visit for history lovers and is easily accessible by various transport options. On Foot (from City Center or Amphitheatre) The museum is an easy 10-minute walk from the Durrës Amphitheatre and just 5 minutes from Shëtitorja Taulantia, the main beachfront promenade. Follow the waterfront path eastward past cafés and statues until you see the museum’s striking modern facade. By Bus Local buses from Durrës Bus Terminal (about 2 km away) stop near the city center. From there, it's a short walk to the museum. If arriving from Tirana, take the intercity bus to Durrës, then walk or grab a quick taxi. By Taxi or Rideshare Taxis are readily available and relatively affordable. A taxi from the bus terminal or beach hotels to the museum typically takes around 5–10 minutes. Be sure to agree on the fare before the ride or use a rideshare app if available. By Bicycle or E-Scooter Durrës is increasingly bike-friendly, and you’ll find rental bikes and e-scooters available along the promenade. There are places to safely park near the museum entrance. By Car If driving, set your navigation to Rruga Taulantia, near Volga Beach. Free and paid street parking is available nearby, but it can get busy during peak hours. The museum is well signposted and lies close to many other attractions in the old town. Car Rental Whether you're planning scenic road trips or quick rides around town, renting a car or scooter can save time. Rentalcars.com  helps you find the best deals from reputable providers. ⪢ Consider Taking a Tour One of the most popular ways to visit Durres is by tour. Book day trips from the capital, Tirana, and explore popular spots like Bovilla Lake, Gamti Mountain, and Grunas Waterfall with GetYourGuide. 🎟️ Book your tickets here ⪢ Contact Information for the Archaeological Museum of Durrës Address: Rruga Taulantia 32, Durrës 2000, Albania The museum is temporarily closed for renovations as of April 2025. We will update this post when more information becomes available about the reopening. ADVERTISEMENT Easily Find Hotels in Durres and Beyond Looking for a place to stay nearby? Browse Durres hotel deals below to find great rates for an overnight stay. Our map offers a user-friendly interface that allows you to zoom in and out, providing a comprehensive view of the area and enabling you to identify the most convenient hotel options based on your current location or desired destination. Our Experience Rating: Museum of Durrës As far as date nights go, this one is right up there for us. It was unexpected, having been recommended just a few hours before the event, but it is those types of opportunities that tend to turn out to be the best ones. The setting inside the museum could not have been more perfect, as the music enchanted and dazzled. It was very spiritual, and you could feel the energy from not just the sounds but the epic artifacts too. This one will not be forgotten any time soon, that is for sure! FAQ: Visiting the Archaeological Museum of Durrës—History Meets Harmony Where is the Archaeological Museum of Durrës located? The museum is located on the Durrës seafront, just a short walk from the main promenade and beach. It’s situated near the old Roman walls and close to other historic landmarks like the Durrës Amphitheatre . What kind of exhibits does the museum feature? The museum houses artifacts from prehistoric, Greek, Roman, and Byzantine periods, including: ● Ancient pottery ● Marble statues ● Mosaics ● Funerary stelae ● Jewelry and daily-life objects from Durrës’ long history as a key Adriatic port What are the opening hours and ticket prices? The museum is generally open daily from 9:00 AM to 4:00 PM, but hours may vary seasonally or on holidays. Entrance fees are very affordable, typically just a few euros for adults. The museum is temporarily closed for renovations as of April 2025. We will update this post when more information becomes available about the reopening. Is the museum suitable for children or casual visitors? Yes. The museum is compact, informative, and easy to navigate, making it ideal for families and travelers with a light interest in archaeology. Are the displays labeled in English? Many exhibits include English translations, though not all. However, the visual presentation and layout still make it accessible without a deep knowledge of Albanian. How long should I plan for a visit? A typical visit lasts 30–60 minutes, depending on your interest in ancient history. It pairs well with nearby attractions like the Roman Amphitheatre or a seaside walk. Was there a live music performance during your visit? Yes! During the visit covered in the blog, a surprise performance by the Galan Trio, a local classical ensemble, added a magical, atmospheric touch to the museum space. Who are the Galan Trio? The Galan Trio is an Albanian musical ensemble known for blending classical music with modern and Balkan influences. Their intimate setting in the museum added an artistic layer to the historic setting. Is the museum accessible to people with mobility needs? The museum is mostly on one level, with wide entrances. While it may lack advanced accessibility features, it’s generally easy to enter and move around. Can I take photos inside the museum? Yes, non-flash photography is usually allowed, especially for personal use. Be respectful of signage or staff instructions regarding certain exhibits or events. Travel Resources

Instagram has been my creative home for six years. I joined in late 2019 with one purpose: to share and promote my poetry book, Out of the Shadows. I’d never used Instagram before, and in those early days, it felt simple, rewarding, and exciting. But after six years, thousands of posts, experiments with new features, and building entire communities through poetry and travel, I can honestly say this: Instagram doesn’t feel like the same app anymore. And it’s fair to ask the question many creators are quietly whispering—is Instagram dying? In this post , I share my raw experience, from the early days of growth and community to today’s struggles with reach, reward, and burnout. You’ll see how the platform has shifted, why so many feel it’s in decline, and whether Instagram is still the place to be for creators. In This Post... ● The Early Days ● The Shift ● Engagement Collapse ● Effort vs Reward ● Business Value See More... ● Community and Connection ● Where Is Instagram Heading? ● So, Is Instagram Dying? ● Poll ● FAQ ● Social Media Resources The Early Days: Clean, Simple, Rewarding When I first started, Instagram felt like a breath of fresh air. I’d post poetry pieces—sometimes single-image posts, sometimes a carousel with a longer poem. I’d write thoughtful captions explaining why I wrote the piece or how I was feeling. And it worked. People saw it, liked it, commented, followed, and supported it. There was a strong sense of community and reciprocity—if you engaged with someone’s work, they engaged back. It didn’t feel transactional; it felt like a digital neighborhood. Even the features were clean and straightforward. Stories came along, and while I struggled to know exactly what to put there at the beginning, they eventually gave me another way to connect. Reach was strong. Growth felt organic. There was a clear reward for effort. That reward has all but disappeared today. The Shift: Reels, Algorithms, and Pay-to-Play When Reels first appeared, I was excited. I was in Canada during lockdown, experimenting with adding text, music, and creative edits. It felt fresh. Reels were fun, and they delivered real visibility. But then the shift happened. Reach was slowly squeezed. Suddenly, posts came with constant prompts: Boost this post, pay $2, and get 1,000 more views. The platform started to feel less like a creative playground and more like a pay-to-play system. Reels also turned stale. Instead of original content, the feed became full of recycled trends, identical hooks, and endless “how to grow on Instagram” coaches trying to sell you something. The variety and creativity drained away, replaced by an endless scroll of sameness. Meanwhile, the algorithm became more punishing. Like one random cat video, and your feed is cats forever. Genuine engagement turned into algorithmic signals, which made people hesitant to interact at all. And then there are the bugs. The app constantly shifts, features break, posts upload blurry, and captions vanish. Buttons move every week, features appear on one account but not another, and half the new tools nobody asked for. Instagram is trying to be everything at once—video app, shopping app, AI app—and it’s failing at all of them. ADVERTISEMENT Engagement Collapse: The Community Disappears One of the clearest signs that Instagram is dying is the collapse of engagement. Four or five years ago, gaining followers was a natural process. You’d find someone new, like a few posts, maybe leave a comment, and they’d come back to support you. A like was a like, not a trap for your Explore feed. Today, engagement feels hollow. Likes and comments have dropped. The sense of community is gone. People are hesitant to engage for fear of what it will do to their algorithm. Loyal followers often don’t see your posts at all. Scroll your feed, and it’s almost entirely people you don’t follow. The “Following” tab, which should fix that, just shows you five posts from the same account before you give up. Stories get buried, too, and if you post more than one in 24 hours, the reach is limited. Even the “friends feed” is hidden behind taps that most people don’t know exist. As a result, Instagram feels more like a content dump than a community. Effort vs Reward: A Losing Game Creating content today takes far more time and energy than it used to. Editing tools are complex, polished videos are expected, and you’re constantly second-guessing. Is the hook right? Did I use trending audio? Should I post at 7 p.m.? Will the algorithm punish me for posting a blog link? You can spend hours putting together something thoughtful and beautiful, only for it to reach 1% of your followers. And even if one thing does perform well, it likely won’t work the second or third time. There’s no consistency, no predictability, and no reward. Instagram has turned into a job without pay. Instead of being a space to share your creativity, it demands that you serve the algorithm first. Business Value: From Weak to Almost Worthless For creators and businesses, Instagram’s value has dropped dramatically. Links in stories tank reach. Promotional posts rarely get seen. Instagram shopping was buggy and has largely been retired. And unlike platforms like Pinterest , which actively drive traffic to blogs and websites, Instagram keeps people locked inside the app. For me personally, Instagram has never been a reliable driver of clicks or conversions. It was slightly better years ago, but today it’s almost worthless as a business tool. You can post all the polished content you like, but if nobody sees it, what’s the point? Community and Connection: From Heart to Hollow The saddest part of Instagram’s decline is the loss of genuine community. Back when Jenn and I ran Closer Lives Poetry , we built a community of over 5,000 people who engaged with prompts, joined live readings, and supported each other’s work. Our hashtag of the same name has over 35,000 submissions. We didn’t have half the features Instagram has now, but it worked. People cared. Now, those features exist in abundance with collabs, interactive stickers, DMs, and group chats, but the soul has gone. Engagement limits, fear of being flagged for “too many actions,” and a flood of bots have pushed people away from authentic interaction. What’s left feels more like silence than conversation. Where Is Instagram Heading? To me, it doesn’t feel like Instagram knows where it’s going. It’s trying to compete with TikTok, YouTube, Pinterest, and even shopping apps, but in doing so, it’s lost its identity. On my phone, I have three different Instagram accounts, and each one looks different. Different buttons, fonts, and features. It’s fragmented, buggy, and inconsistent. The only thing creators consistently ask for is reach. Look at the comments under any post from Instagram’s CEO, Adam Mosseri—it’s the same chorus every time: We just want our followers to see our posts. Until that changes, in my opinion, the platform will continue to decline. TikTok thrives because it rewards people. Whether or not those millions of views translate into long-term followers, the dopamine hit of visibility keeps people posting. Instagram has stripped away that reward, leaving creators drained and disengaged. So, Is Instagram Dying? For me, the answer is yes, at least in the spirit of what it once was. Instagram used to be fun, creative, and rewarding. Today it’s cluttered, buggy, unrewarding, and exhausting. Unless you’re one of the tiny percentage of monetized creators, the app feels like a job without benefits. Could it be saved? Maybe. Fix the bugs. Simplify the interface. Stop chasing every other platform. And most importantly, give creators back their reach. Until then, Instagram will remain what it feels like today: an app in decline, a platform that lost its purpose, and a place where too many creators have stopped asking “what should I post next?” and started asking “why bother posting at all?” Poll FAQ: Is Instagram Dying? Why has Instagram engagement dropped so much? Because the algorithm has evolved to prioritize content discovery over connection. Reels reach strangers, not followers, and regular posts often reach less than 1–2% of your audience. Likes and comments have become algorithmic triggers instead of genuine interactions. Most creators aren’t being shadowbanned—they’re just not being surfaced. Has Instagram become pay-to-play? In many ways, yes. Boost prompts and paid reach options appear on almost every post now, and the platform increasingly rewards accounts that advertise. Organic reach has plummeted, leaving smaller creators feeling invisible unless they spend to compete. Why does Instagram feel less creative than it used to? Because creativity is being replaced by performance. When creators are forced to follow trends, hooks, and formulas to be seen, spontaneity and individuality vanish. What used to be a creative outlet now feels like content production for an algorithm. Is Instagram still useful for businesses or bloggers? Not like it used to be. The lack of link visibility and external clicks makes it difficult for creators to drive traffic or conversions. Even Story links tank reach. Platforms like Pinterest or TikTok are now stronger for discovery and blog traffic than Instagram ever was. What happened to the community on Instagram? Community was replaced by consumption. Features like Stories and Reels turned Instagram into an entertainment feed rather than a social network. Users hesitate to comment or like because one action can reshape their algorithm. The sense of mutual support—what once made Instagram special—is almost gone. Is Instagram really dying, or just changing? It depends on who you ask. For brands and trend-based accounts, it’s still useful. But for creators who built their followings through photography, art, writing, or storytelling, it’s largely unrecognizable. Instagram isn’t dying because people left—it’s dying because people stopped caring. Can creators still succeed on Instagram? Yes, but not in the same way. Success now requires structure more than spontaneity: organizing ideas, setting posting schedules, and defining purpose. It’s less about virality and more about personal clarity—knowing why  you post, not just what . What would it take for Instagram to feel alive again? Three things: reward, simplicity, and stability. Bring back Reach, clean up the bugs, and stop overcomplicating the app. Most creators don’t want new features—they just want to feel seen again. Social Media Resources

'Your account has been disabled for violating our terms.'   No doubt that is the reason you are here, and believe me, I can relate to how you are feeling right now. I have been where you are, and I am writing this post to share my experience and hopefully help you recover your Instagram account. I also share tips, tricks, dos, and don'ts so you can avoid this happening again in the future. In This Post... ● My Account Was Deactivated ● Why is My Account disabled? ● The First Message & What's Next ● Contacting Instagram ● Instagram Appeal Forms See More... ● Appeal Sent - the Next Steps ● What NOT to Do While You Wait ● 7 Days Later - What's Next ● Facebook Live Support ● My Ad Account Issue ● What Instagram Wanted to Know ● Account Recovery Complete! ● The Final Word Additional Resources ● Protecting Your Account ● FAQ ● Any Other Questions? ● Social Media Resources My Instagram Account Was Deactivated I have been an avid user of Instagram for over 3 years, and for those of you who know our journey  here at Closer Lives, you will see that it is on Instagram that Jenn and I met for the very first time. Instagram: @myplayonlife Instagram has had a huge impact on our lives, and indeed, our entire story, alongside our travel adventures, has been shared there. Our Instagram accounts are months, years, and even decades of copious amounts of time and energy put into content, follower growth, design, and promotion. Not to mention the amazing people and friends that, no doubt, like me, you have connected with. The moment I was 'disabled' was like a rug being pulled from under my feet, and it was a hard moment to take. Just like that, everything I had built was under threat. I had no reason, no understanding, and just a deep sense of fear that the journey may well be over. I thought it simply must have been a mistake. Tap the appeal, fill out the very basic information request, and wait 24 hours. It will be alright; I have not done anything wrong. "I will get it back," I told myself. I tried to stay positive and maintain as much patience as I could muster. In the early days of my block, I managed it, but by day 3, my emotions were starting to get the better of me. I realized that simply waiting was not going to be enough. I started to research relentlessly to find out more information, reading countless articles and watching a plethora of videos about it on YouTube. After several hours of this, I knew that I had no choice but to fight for my account or risk losing it for good. This is my story, and some of the things I discovered that may just help you get your account back. Read on  to find out how to appeal, what NOT to do, how to contact Meta, and ultimately how I recovered my account. ⪢ First things first... While this may not be the easiest thing to read right now, expect to hear this from friends, family, and even Meta themselves. Don't panic!   It is indeed sound advice; even if you have violated the community guidelines, your chances of recovering your account are fairly good if this is the first time you have been blocked. You will have to wait; do not be surprised if it takes up to a month  to get things sorted. However, you may just get it back a lot sooner. The truth is, it is highly unpredictable. Why Has My Instagram Account Been Disabled? There are many reasons why your account will have been disabled. Instagram's guidelines are very clear, but have you read them? Perhaps not, and honestly, neither had I. Most of my knowledge in terms of what and what not to do had come from word of mouth and posts from other users who had fallen foul of the rules. To be clear, this post will NOT help you if your account has been suspended (as in you can still log in but cannot like, comment, follow, etc.). This post is only for no longer being able to access/log in to their account . Here are a few common reasons why your account may have been disabled: ● Connecting an unauthorized application to your account, such as insight apps, automated like apps, follow/unfollow apps, etc. Tap here for more about this . ● Buying followers (these are usually bots) ● Joining follow loops / follow trains ● Participating in engagement groups ● Sending spam messages to followers and non-followers See More... ● Following & unfollowing in large numbers ● Using Instagram shopping in unlicensed countries ● Providing your login credentials to a 3rd party application or service that is automating actions or scraping information ● Using an app or service to interact with Facebook or Instagram in unauthorized ways ● Your account was shared or compromised/hacked, and someone is taking actions on your behalf or without your knowledge ● Changing your location regularly I would highly advise reading the Terms & Conditions of Use in Instagram's Help Centre to try and fully understand why the block has happened. Be honest with yourself, and do not be afraid to admit any breach of the rules. As you progress with the appeal, and as you will see from my experience, honesty is the best policy here. Hopefully, by now, you may have identified why your account has been disabled. If not, do not worry; from my experience, you may never even know the actual reason. In any case, something somewhere was triggered by the system, and we are where we are. Whatever your reasons for wanting your account back, just know that there is a chance you will be able to do just that. I have seen stories of timelines ranging from 48 hours to 30 days. The key to it all is to be patient but, by all means, persistent! Have you seen The Shawshank Redemption? Well, I highly recommend it if you haven't! A fantastic movie. Aside from that, and more to the point, prisoner Andy Dufresne writes a letter a week to the state requesting funding for the prison library. This is where your fight begins. Once a week, then eventually twice, for six years. Yes, SIX! There is so much more to the story that I shall not divulge in case you haven't seen it. But I mention it only through one lens: the power of consistency. The power of persistence. You need to go all out Shawshank on this! ADVERTISEMENT First Instagram Account Disabled Message: What To Do Next I must admit that in the past, I have had a couple of suspensions for too much activity; however, I have always been able to log in, even if I could not perform any actions for a day or two. This was the first time my account had ever been disabled. My heart was in my mouth the moment I saw these screens. It was in that instance that I realized just how important this account is to me; in the same token, the thought of losing it crept into my thought process for the first time, and it was frightening. Note that in most cases, any actions against your account are enacted by Instagram's system AI and algorithm. It is highly unlikely that it has been done by an actual human! When the initial block happens, even your immediate appeal is not overseen by a human. 'We will review' most likely means 'our bots will review.' When asked to provide your information, you will be asked for an email address. You may read or hear that it is important that you leave the email associated with your account, although I would say that it does not matter. As long as you stick with the same email throughout the process. This is important to demonstrate that you are not a bot and are a genuine human. Over two billion people use Instagram once a month, making it the fourth most popular social app worldwide Bots and fake accounts are a thorn in the side of Instagram, and unfortunately, no matter how big (or small) your account following may be, your appeal will be dropped in amongst hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of others. It is hard to imagine just how they tackle this, although sadly, the sheer lack of any type of customer support is equally hard to fathom. Contacting Instagram It is easy to understand why Instagram would be overwhelmed should it operate a helpline or email channel. Instagram has never announced any type of customer support since it first hit the app stores in 2010. Nevertheless, here are the details you might find online: ● Instagram Headquarters: +1 650 543 4800 or +1 415 857 3369 ● Instagram for business: +1 660 745 3051 ● support@instagram.com You are welcome to try these avenues, but it is highly unlikely you will receive any kind of response. Ultimately, the only place to look for any type of issue or guidance is Instagram's help centre . It is here that you will be able to complete various forms to begin your appeal process. You will also find a link to one of the forms in the message informing you of your account block on the login screen. ADVERTISEMENT Instagram Appeal Forms Here are the IDs for all of the appeal forms I used, all within the first 7 days of my account being disabled/deactivated: ● instagram.com/contact/60696731 ● instagram.com/contact/39616978 ● instagram.com/contact/43790879 ● instagram.com/contact/16525678 ● instagram.com/contact/16104597 2025 Update: It appears that Meta/Instagram has removed the functionality of these forms. This may be temporary, or it could be a permanent change. At this point, your best bet is to jump straight to Facebook Live Support or try instagram.com/hacked My advice is to complete each of these forms once only and on separate days . You will most likely read and see many people advising you to complete these multiple times a day until you get a response. I did this myself. In total, I completed each one 3 times! However, I eventually found out that this was to my detriment. After speaking directly with Meta, they clearly stated that with every submission, your case goes to the bottom of the pile! It seems strange, but it kind of makes sense. Think about it, you and I will not be the only ones to assume that the more we fill out the forms, the better chances we will have. Having received millions of contact forms over the years, Instagram is saying, 'We have your request; please be patient. It will be seen. ⪢ How to Complete the Appeal Forms The forms are pretty basic and easy to complete. If you have a business account, you will be asked to provide some form of verification. The key is the 'please let us know why you're appealing the decision' section. This is your opportunity to plead your case, and I highly advise that you place plenty of time and thought into it. This is my advice for what you should include: ● Why do you believe your account was deactivated? (Be honest; if you know the reason, state it. If you do not know, however, that is okay. ● Acknowledge the community guidelines and your willingness to adhere to them. ● Explain what you use the account for. ● State any other people who may have access to the account. ● Briefly detail how you will be using the account going forward, should it be re-enabled. There is no real need to apologize, although if you know why your account was disabled, then perhaps it is not a bad idea. I feel it is best not to until you have more information. You Have Sent Your Appeal to Instagram—the Next Steps Now this is the interesting part. In most cases, when contacting a multi-billion-dollar mega company with an issue, you would come to expect a response that makes you feel like you are being heard, that you are important, and that they will try to resolve your issue as soon as possible. From the 15 forms I submitted, I received an email response to just 3 of them. Yes, just three. It looked like this: No logo and a pretty sketchy email address make this almost look like a spam email. Indeed, that is where I found it—in my spam folder . Needless to say, I was checking that folder every few hours in my desperate hopes of a response. So this is what you will receive, and the instructions are pretty simple. Grab a pen and paper and do this: I also added my reasons for appealing again, including our website and other information that could verify my identity. What happens after this is a complete mystery, though. There was no acknowledgement or receipt of my reply, and indeed, to this day, I have never received any further communication from Instagram itself with regard to this. I persevered with this process for around 2 weeks, filling out forms and just waiting. Waiting, waiting, and waiting. The silence was deafening, and I knew there had to be something else I could do. What NOT to Do While You Wait Every day, I found myself searching Google , Quora , Reddit , YouTube , and even Facebook Groups . With my feeling of desperation ever increasing, I found myself turning to the very murky and dark waters of the IG 'hackers,' who are ultimately just scammers. Sadly, people will prey on your 'desperation,' and, as tempting and as 'genuine' as it may seem, it will NOT work. All of those apps, comment bots, and even YouTubers that recommend taking these steps may have been lucky enough to find some form of success, but the chances are overwhelmingly unlikely and will only lead to more problems. Whatever you do, do not engage in the following: ● Instagram Plus Plus (Instagram++) ● Instagram Account Recovery Tool Websites ● IG Account Recovery Apps ● Anyone who posts in a group claiming to be a hacker ● Anyone who posts in a group claiming they have been scammed and is genuine ● Anyone who asks for money to recover your account As mentioned earlier, 'data scraping' is absolutely against Instagram's terms, and all of the options above do just that. Even if they can recover your account, the footprint they leave will remain, and eventually a bot will pick that up. Then back to square one you go. NEVER give out your log in information, NEVER pay money and STICK with the Instagram / Meta process. It really is the ONLY WAY! You Have Waited 7-10 Business Days and Have Had No Response from Instagram. Here is What to Do Next When you request to delete content or your account, the deletion process will automatically begin no more than 30 days after your request. It may take up to 90 days to delete content after the deletion process begins. "While the deletion process for such content is being undertaken, the content is no longer visible to other users, but remains subject to these Terms of Use and our Data Policy. After the content is deleted, it may take us up to another 90 days to remove it from backups and disaster recovery systems." - Content Removal and Disabling or Terminating Your Account (Instagram Terms of Use) Naturally, after reading this, I panicked. From what I could understand, I had 30 days in total to save my account from oblivion. It had already been 14 days by this point, so I knew that if I did not find another way soon, it would be over. Once the deletion process is started, there is no way to restore or recover your data. So, after filtering through copious amounts of YouTube videos, I kept hearing about Facebook Live Support . I knew if I had any chance of saving the day, then talking to an actual human would be the best way to do it! It eventually did just that; read on for the steps you can take to access this little-known but very helpful feature. Facebook Live Support Most of my sources have suggested this feature is only accessible if you have a Facebook/Instagram business account. Fortunately for me, I already had one. If you do not, it is possible to create one on Facebook. You will also need an ad account for reasons I shall explain shortly. ⪢ Option One - Contact via Email The Meta Business Help Centre is very useful for all sorts of reasons, and I would recommend checking out this article: 🔗 facebook.com/business/help If you are unfortunate enough to be in a country where live chat is not supported, then you can follow these steps for email communication with Meta: At the bottom of the aforementioned article, you will find a small question box asking you if the article was 'helpful.' Click 'no,' then follow the steps to explain why. It will then take you to a form asking for your contact information. This report will go directly to the Facebook Marketplace/Pro Team , who, unlike Instagram, will respond immediately with a professional and formal email that will look something like this: This was a real 'blue sky' moment for me, as it was the very first time throughout this whole process that I felt I was in with a chance of getting somewhere. I found that the Meta Pro Team was extremely helpful, and on both occasions I dealt with them, it felt like they genuinely wanted to help. Even just the basic use of a reference number is far more in keeping with the expectations of a company of this size. All email communications were prompt and informative, and over a couple of days, I was able to obtain a resolution to one of my issues. My ad account was also disabled, and fortunately, this was a quicker fix. I was impressed with the efficiency and genuine care they showed, and I trust this will be the same for you, too, should you need it! 🔗 Read more about my Ad account issue here If this option still does not result in your account being re-enabled, then read on for option two below. ⪢ Option Two - Contact via Live Messenger Support Please note that this option will only be made available to you if you have an active Facebook Ad account AND you place an actual ad. After resolving my ad account issue, I successfully placed an ad for £5. After doing so, I accessed this feature by requesting help on the Commerce Manager page by clicking the help button in the bottom left-hand corner . As I understand it, access is restricted to certain countries , and the location of this 'chat' option varies from user to user. This is what worked for me, and I am currently in the UK. Once you click this, look over to the right, and this window will appear: Click 'Contact Facebook Support,' and from the following screen, select 'reporting a technical issue' from the drop-down menu: Then the holy grail! A few more sections to fill out, and then the magical moment will arrive where you can talk directly to the Facebook Team. An option will appear asking you how you would like to be contacted, via email or live chat. Tap "live," and it will automatically route you to Facebook Messenger, where you will have the opportunity to speak to the Meta Pro Team. It is important to take the opportunity to plead your case in the message section. Give as much information as you can, but bear in mind you only have 1500 characters. Find out more about what Instagram wanted to know . I have read various accounts of success through this chat option. Some people have had immediate success, some have waited a few hours, and some a day. For me, I had to wait a couple of days for a decision, which initially came back with me being told to wait for the Instagram appeal process. I did just that, yet after a further 7 days of not hearing anything, I tried my hand again. Another ad later, and I was in touch with a very helpful operator, Ezequiel, through Facebook Messenger. He handed my case over to Ana, and from there, things developed very rapidly! She filed an 'internal ticket' with the Instagram Team and communicated with me via email every step of the way. Two days had passed, during which we had exchanged several emails, and I answered a very important questionnaire. Then the moment came; Ana even called me personally to inform me that my account had been reactivated! I am not sure if I was just lucky, but Ezequiel and Ana were brilliant. Why I was not able to get the same level of resolution the first time round, I do not know, but as they always say, it is the result that counts the most, not necessarily how you get there! My Ad Account Issue Before I was able to access live support, I needed to run an ad, as I have mentioned, and most unfortunately, there was a problem with this, too! Luckily for me, this was a slightly easier fix, but this snag did further complicate things with regard to my Instagram account. My ad account was suspended as I accessed Instagram Shopping while we were travelling in Albania. IG Shopping is not authorized there, and it caused a system block. All I did was tweak a few products and settings in my shop, and it was game over. This coincided with my IG block, so the two could well have been related. The block was classed as 'suspected fraud,' which freaked me out at first, but after explaining that I am a full-time traveller and move around often, it was lifted fairly easily after running its pre-programmed course of 2 weeks. Tip: In Facebook Commerce Manager, you will find a section on the left-hand side called 'Account Health.' I am not sure how often this is updated, but it is a good indicator of any issues, and I used this screenshot to further help my appeal. Hindsight is 20/20, right? At least now I know what not to do. Here is a list of the countries that support Instagram shopping, with my advice NOT to tinker with it if you are anywhere that is not mentioned: Find out more about Instagram's Commerce Eligibility Requirements . What Instagram wanted to know After finally having my case seen by an actual member of the Instagram Team, I was asked the following questions, of which I took plenty of time and great care in answering. I had sent many lengthy statements about what I thought had happened and why I wanted my account back on all of the appeal forms. However, I suspect that the information from these questions is the most important for IG; they may help you gain a quicker resolution should you still be formulating your message for the initial appeal process. 1. Which 3rd party apps, tools, or services have you connected with your IG account? 2. Has your account been compromised/hacked in the past few months? 3. What is the primary use of the account? 4. How many people have access to the account? How many actively use it day-to-day? 5. What are the most commonly used features of Instagram that you/your team use on this account (search, messaging, commenting, etc.)? I think this questionnaire was significant, and I would not be surprised if the algorithms are searching for breaches of these types of elements. If you are reading this just for information, then it is worth noting to avoid any infractions of your own. Account Recovery Complete! How many times do you check your email only to be rapidly tapping the delete button as most of it is junk? Well, not for this one! Print it, frame it, and don't make the same mistakes again! This was one heck of a moment. Victory was assured, and with it came a huge mix of relief and elation. Gratitude is most certainly the attitude, and it was exuding out of me after this! Protecting Your Account There are a couple of things you can do to help keep your account secure and in good order. All of these options can be found in the settings area of your Instagram account. ⪢ Connected Apps & Websites It is recommended that you check this to ensure there are no unauthorized connections to your account or connections you do not recognize. ⪢ Two-Factor Authentication & Data Download I would strongly advise turning on two-factor authentication on Instagram. Even if you do not 'log in' that often, adding this layer of security will make it harder for hackers to gain access to your account. The Data Download feature on Instagram is not well-known, but it is an excellent option for keeping your data secure. Once requested, you will have 4 days to accept the download from your email. It comes as raw data, so do not expect it to look like your posts do on the app. All of your photos, videos, comments, likes, etc., will come to you in separate folders, which are a bit tricky to navigate and piece together. However, this is a fantastic option that helps you protect your content and potentially reuse it should you ever need or want to start a new account. ⪢ We Use & Recommend We use NordVPN  to stay secure on public Wi-Fi and NordPass  to keep our passwords safe while traveling. Both are tools we genuinely rely on, on the road and at home. The Final Word So, how about this for some irony? 21 days after my account was restored by the excellent Meta team, I finally received an email from Instagram, the only one I had received throughout this ordeal (aside from the three identity ones I mentioned earlier). At least this one had a bit more of an official look about it with the Instagram logo... Yes, thank you for that, Instagram! I am fully aware that my engagement is a disaster, given that for 25 days of August, I did not even exist on your platform! So there you have it; that was the tale of my Instagram oblivion and restoration. It was most certainly a lesson learned, and if you want to keep your account in good order, respect the guidelines and ensure full and strict adherence to them on your account and across all of your associated accounts, too. This has been a humbling experience and one that has only strengthened the importance of Instagram to me. Instagram has been the only social platform I use actively to date, and I am passionate about developing and sharing fantastic content. This is integral to me harnessing and growing my skills as a creator and blogger, along with developing our website here at Closer Lives! I have the most sincere gratitude that I can share this post from the position of recovery. I know many of you reading this may not yet be there, but keep believing and stay positive! Stay strong and manifest your desire, but do not shy away from working for it. Your energy will be rewarded, and if not, then no doubt the universe will have bigger and better plans for you. Best of luck, and feel free to ask away in the comments if you have any questions! Frequently Asked Questions: Recovering Your Disabled Instagram Account Why was my Instagram account disabled? Accounts can be disabled for violating Instagram’s Community Guidelines or Terms of Use—this includes spam, copyright issues, impersonation, or even accidental flags. Sometimes, it happens in error due to algorithmic detection. How do I know if my account is disabled or hacked? A disabled account usually shows a message like “Your account has been disabled” when you try to log in. A hacked account, on the other hand, may have changed credentials or activity you didn’t perform. You’ll need to approach each differently. Can I recover a disabled Instagram account? Yes—many people do. Instagram provides appeal forms and, in some cases, live chat with Meta support if your account is linked to Facebook. The process can take anywhere from a few days to several weeks. However, the functionality of these forms may have been removed by Meta/Instagram as of June 2024. Is there a way to talk to a real person at Meta? If your Instagram is linked to a Facebook Business account, you may be able to access Meta’s live chat support . This is currently the fastest and most effective route for many creators and influencers. What if I don’t hear back from Instagram after submitting the form? Persistence is key. Re-submit your appeal after 48–72 hours if you don’t receive a reply. Be consistent, but don’t spam the system—this can delay your case. Can using third-party apps get me banned or disabled again? Yes—using unauthorized tools for growth, automation, or analytics can put your account at risk. Avoid giving login access to any app not verified by Instagram or Meta. How can I prevent this from happening again? ● Enable two-factor authentication ● Avoid posting content that violates guidelines ● Don’t use banned hashtags ● Regularly check your account for suspicious logins ● Link your Instagram to a Facebook page for added recovery options Does Instagram ever disable accounts by mistake? Yes—it’s rare but does happen, especially during mass purges or algorithm changes. If you believe this was the case, use the “I think this was a mistake” option in the appeal form. Is it worth creating a backup account? Many creators now maintain a backup or secondary account, especially if their main account is crucial for business or brand identity. It’s also wise to regularly download your data via Instagram settings. What should I do if my account has been hacked? Try the recovery process outlined in the blog post. Being Meta Verified will help in proving your identity. Additionally, visit instagram.com/hacked . Any Other Questions? Hopefully, this post has given you all of the tools you need to clean your follower list safely. If you do have any other additional queries on points not covered here, however, you are more than welcome to get in touch . You can also check out our FAQ page  for more Instagram-related questions. Social Media Resources

Through our blog, we earn in a variety of ways. We have been asked many times to share how, so here it is! Over the past four years, we’ve tested different monetization strategies, partnered with networks both big and small, and found what works best for us as full-time travel bloggers. If you’ve been wondering how to monetize a travel blog, what the best affiliate programs for travel bloggers are, or even how to make money blogging as a beginner, this breakdown will help (we hope!). In this post , we share exactly how we earn on our blog, with our honest thoughts on each method, their standing in the blogging world, and the key benefits. In This Post... ● Traffic and Niche Matter ● Our Most Valuable Partner ● Smarter Ads than AdSense ● Entry-Level but Reliable Ads ● Other Ad Networks ● Affiliate Links – Our Top Earners See More... ● Other Affiliate Networks ● Sponsored Content ● Building Digital Products ● Common Mistakes ● How to Earn Passive Income ● FAQ ● Our Earnings Breakdown ● Final Thoughts ● Related & Useful Links ● Lifestyle Resources Traffic and Niche Matter Before diving into monetization, it’s important to acknowledge the obvious: you need traffic to earn money . Even the best affiliate programs won’t convert without a consistent flow of readers. The key is to focus on a specific niche  (like travel, lifestyle, or food) and create valuable evergreen content that ranks in search engines. SEO, Pinterest, and social media promotion all feed into this. 💡 Our Take:   When we began, traffic was low and earnings trickled in. As we focused on SEO-rich country guides and blog hubs, our income grew steadily. ADVERTISEMENT Stay22—Our Most Valuable Partner Stay22 has by far been our most valuable partner to date. This Canadian-based company provides interactive hotel maps  that we’ve implemented across our blog, allowing readers to easily find accommodation near the destinations we write about. What makes Stay22 stand out is its Allez Script —a unique tool that automatically highlights keywords (such as “hotel” or “tour”) on your site and links them to major platforms like Booking.com , Expedia , Agoda , GetYourGuide , Vrbo , TripAdvisor , Kayak , and Hotels.com . ● Ease of use:  Implementation is as simple as pasting a short code into your site. ● Dashboard:  Clean and intuitive, unlike many clunky affiliate platforms. ● Commission rates:  On par with or higher than working directly with OTAs (Booking.com, Expedia, etc.), without needing separate partnerships. ● Customer service:  Excellent live chat support built directly into the dashboard. ● Flexibility:  You don’t need to change your current affiliate links. Stay22’s system automatically converts them in the backend. The Allez Generator  is another hidden gem. It lets you instantly turn any travel site link into an affiliate link without applying separately to each program. For us, this has been the most seamless and profitable way to monetize a travel blog. 💡 Our Take:   If you’re only going to choose one affiliate partner, make it Stay22. It’s a real game-changer in the industry. Monetag—Smarter Ads than AdSense Display advertising is one of the easiest ways to start earning from a blog, and while Google AdSense  is the default for most beginners, it isn’t always the best choice. That’s where Monetag  comes in. We use Monetag specifically for vignette ads  (full-screen ads between page views). They’ve consistently outperformed AdSense for us in terms of payout rates and customization. ● Payout rates:  Generally higher than AdSense, especially in tier-one countries. ● Ad formats:  Options like popunders, interstitials, and native banners. ● Setup:  Quick and easy; with code you can drop into Wix or WordPress. ● Customer service:  Responsive support team that helps with custom integration. 💡 Our Take:   Monetag is a great choice if you want better control and earnings than AdSense. AdSense—Entry Level but Reliable Google AdSense remains the starting point for most bloggers. It’s easy to set up, it works automatically, and it integrates seamlessly with YouTube. But the trade-off is low payout rates  and virtually no customer service . ● Ease of use:  The easiest ad network to start with. ● Consistency:  Google’s auto-ads mean you’ll always have ads running without much management. ● Downsides:  Low RPMs (earnings per 1,000 views), limited customization, and zero human support. 💡 Our Take:   AdSense is fine to get started with, but move to a higher-paying network like Monetag or Mediavine as soon as your traffic allows. Other Ad Networks to Consider As your traffic grows, you can graduate to higher-paying networks. That is certainly our aim anyway! Here are a couple we want to work with: ● Mediavine :  Highly regarded, but requires 50,000 sessions/month. Excellent RPMs and strong community support. ● Ezoic :  Mid-level option with lower traffic requirements, known for AI-driven ad placements. These give you a progression pathway beyond AdSense, with a much higher earning potential. Affiliate Links—Our Top Earners Beyond Hotels Beyond Stay22 and display ads, affiliate links remain a core way we earn. The key is to partner with programs that fit naturally into your content and provide value to your readers. Over time, we’ve curated a set of affiliate partners that align perfectly with travel blogging and our own lifestyle as digital nomads: ● eSIMs:   GigSky  (10% off with code CLOSERLIVES10), Saily  (5% off with code SPECIAL5), and Holafly (5% off with code CLOSERLIVES5) ● VPN:   NordVPN ● Travel Insurance:   SafetyWing ● Money transfers:   Wise ● Car rental:   Turo 💡 Our Take:   Sourcing affiliates should be strategic. Don’t just sign up for everything. Focus on what you already use and what your readers need. Other Affiliate Networks to Explore An affiliate network is a platform that connects merchants (advertisers) with affiliates (publishers) who promote the merchants' products or services. It acts as an intermediary, facilitating the relationship between the two parties and managing various aspects of the affiliate marketing process. ⪢ Key Functions of Affiliate Networks ● Tracking and Reporting: Affiliate networks provide tracking tools that monitor clicks, conversions, and sales generated by affiliates. This data is crucial for both merchants and affiliates to evaluate performance. ● Payment Processing: They handle the payment process, ensuring that affiliates receive their commissions on time and in a secure manner. ● Access to Multiple Programs: Affiliates can access a wide range of affiliate programs through a single network, simplifying the process of finding and joining programs that align with their niche. ● Support and Resources: Many affiliate networks offer support, training, and resources to help affiliates optimize their marketing strategies and improve their performance. ⪢ Benefits of Using an Affiliate Network ● Streamlined Processes: Affiliate networks simplify the management of affiliate relationships, making it easier for both merchants and affiliates. ● Increased Reach: Merchants can benefit from the extensive reach of affiliates who promote their products across various channels. ● Risk Mitigation: By using a network, merchants can reduce the risk of fraud and ensure that they are working with reputable affiliates. ⪢ Examples of Popular Affiliate Networks ● TravelPayouts :  Focused on flights, hotels, and tours. ● CJ (Commission Junction) & Awin :  Huge networks with thousands of brands, including travel. ● Amazon Associates :  Good for gear recommendations, though commissions are low. ADVERTISEMENT Sponsored Content & Partnerships Once your blog builds authority, you’ll start attracting sponsored post opportunities, brand collaborations, and product reviews. These can pay well but require more active work. ● Rates depend on your traffic, domain authority, and niche. ● Always disclose sponsored content for transparency. ● Great for diversifying income but not truly passive. A good tip is to create a ' work with us ' or ' write for us ' page on your site, where you can share collaborations and detail what your terms and expectations are. You are likely to get many offers as you grow, so we would also suggest creating a submission form , which helps tackle bots and deter those who might not be legitimate. 💡 Our Take:   We see this as complementary to affiliates and ads, not the core of our blog income. Always be sure to fully vet partnerships and offers, and be careful of scammers. Building Digital Products or Services Another long-term way to monetize is by creating your own products or services: ● Ebooks, downloadable travel guides, or templates. ● Online courses or workshops. ● Personalized travel planning or coaching. ● Monetizable blog posts ● Subscription services 💡 Our Take:   We haven’t fully explored all yet, but it’s on the horizon. Watch this space! Common Mistakes New Bloggers Make The old adage, "We make mistakes so that you don't have to!" That applies here for sure. Here are a few things that we recommend you avoid: ● Signing up for too many programs at once. ● Promoting products you don’t actually use. ● Expecting overnight income. ● Ignoring SEO and site speed. ● Failing to diversify (relying only on one income stream). 💡 Our Take:   Focus on one or two monetization methods first. We began with Stay22 and AdSense, then scaled. Also, don't be afraid to go back and re-optimize old posts. It can yield great results. How to Earn Passive Income from a Blog The real magic of monetization is when it becomes passive income . Instead of trading hours for dollars, you’re building assets that keep paying over time. For travel bloggers, this means: ● Stay22 maps and Allez links that keep earning long after a post is published. ● Monetag vignette ads generate daily revenue from page views. ● Affiliate links to services like eSIMs, VPNs, and insurance that convert naturally. ● Evergreen posts that keep ranking in Google months or years later. ● Use effective anchor text to embed links within text. Try to keep them natural and less 'salesy'—this can put people off. ● Go back and re-optimize old posts with new links where possible. 💡 Our Take:   Passive income doesn’t mean no work. It means smart upfront effort that continues paying back. FAQ How much traffic do I need to make money blogging? You can start with any traffic, but realistically, income starts to build once you’re getting 5,000+ visits per month. Can I make money blogging as a beginner? Yes, but start simple with Stay22 and Monetag . Don’t expect overnight results—it takes months of consistent publishing. What’s the fastest way to monetize a blog? Stay22’s Allez Script is one of the fastest because it instantly converts your existing links. How long until I see passive income? Most bloggers see consistent earnings after 6–12 months of building traffic and publishing evergreen content. Do I need to register as a business? Not at the start. But once you’re earning consistently, set up proper tax and business structures. Our Earnings Breakdown To give you a sense of how this all fits together, here’s a rough breakdown of our blog income: ● Stay22:  40% ● Affiliate partners (eSIMs, VPNs, etc.):  25% ● Ads (Monetag/AdSense):  20% ● Sponsored content:  15% This will evolve over time, but it shows the value of diversifying income streams. Final Thoughts If you’re starting out and want to make money blogging as a beginner, we recommend starting with AdSense and Stay22. As your traffic grows, add Monetag for higher ad rates and expand your affiliate partnerships to services you actually use. For us, the combination of Stay22 , Monetag , and affiliate links  has been the backbone of monetizing our travel blog. It’s simple to manage, highly effective, and scalable as we grow. Related & Useful Links Explore more of our best resources, tools, and partner pages to help you plan smarter and travel better. For guides, resources, and destination insights from 40+ countries. Compare the best eSIMs—GigSky, Saily, Holafly, Simbye, and more. For insurance, banking, VPNs, car rentals, and trusted tools, we have tried and tested. Interested in partnerships? We offer guest posts, sponsorships, and collaborations. Lifestyle Resources

Hair is never just hair. We change it because it feels flat. Because it feels boring . Because something feels missing. We change it to fit in . To stand out. To feel edgier. To feel different. To feel more like ourselves—or sometimes less like who we’re afraid we’re becoming. For many of us, it started early. Maybe it was spraying lemon juice or Sun-In into our hair in the summer and sitting in the sun, hoping for that lighter, brighter version of ourselves. Maybe it was being told our natural color was “mousy” or dull. Maybe it was experimenting with hot pink or electric blue —wanting to feel bold, seen, or different. Or maybe it was the first time you noticed a gray hair and felt that quiet jolt of  oh… here we go . Whatever the reason, hair changes rarely start as vanity. They start as a response. In This Post... ● Hair as Identity & Belonging ● The Comfort of What We Know ● Why Force Doesn’t Work ● Sitting With the Urge ● Applying Kaizen to Hair Changes See More... ● Ikigai: What Are You Seeking? ● Hair as a Mirror, Not a Fix ● Lifestyle Resources Hair as Identity and Belonging Hair is one of the fastest ways we try to control how we’re perceived—by others and by ourselves. It’s socially acceptable reinvention. A visible way to signal change without having to explain anything. New job? New hair. New phase? New hair. Feeling invisible? New hair. Feeling unsure? New hair. And when it works—even once—the brain remembers. Hair becomes a shortcut to relief. A way to regulate how we feel inside when something feels off. That’s how a choice quietly becomes a habit . The Comfort of What We Know Just like any other habit, the urge to change our hair intensifies during transitions. When life feels unstable. When identity feels uncertain. When we want to return to something familiar. That craving isn’t shallow. It ’s the nervous system asking for safety. And this is where many people get stuck—because instead of recognizing the  need , they judge the behavior. Why Force Doesn’t Work With Hair Habits Telling yourself “I’m never touching my hair again” often creates the same internal panic as any all-or-nothing rule. The body doesn’t hear  growth . It hears  loss . Loss of familiarity. Loss of control. Loss of the thing that used to make you feel okay. So the urge gets louder. This is where the Japanese approach to habits offers something gentler—and far more effective. ADVERTISEMENT Sitting With the Urge Instead of Obeying It In Japanese philosophy, urges aren’t emergencies. They’re temporary experiences. Just like cravings for sugar or cigarettes, the urge to change your hair has a peak. If you don’t rush to fix it, it passes. But most of us don’t sit with it. We act quickly. We book the appointment. We reach for the dye. We “just fix it.” What would happen if you paused instead? Not forever. Just long enough to notice. Applying Kaizen to Hair Changes Kaizen means slow, steady improvement—without triggering panic. Instead of dramatic declarations, it invites gentle shifts. Stretch the time between appointments. Soften the transition. Resist “panic fixing” every awkward phase. Let the urge rise and fall without acting on it immediately. You’re not denying yourself. You’re retraining your nervous system. Ikigai: What Are You Actually Seeking? Ikigai asks the question we often avoid: What am I truly looking for through this change? Is it belonging? Novelty? Confidence? Control? A sense of identity? Hair is rarely the answer—but it often points toward the question. When you meet the underlying need directly, the habit loses its grip. The urgency fades. And hair becomes a choice again, not a reflex. Hair as a Mirror, Not a Fix Changing your hair isn’t wrong. But when it becomes the only way you know how to feel different, seen, or okay—that’s worth paying attention to. You don’t need to shame the habit. You don’t need to force it away. You just need to understand it. Because when you stop using hair to regulate your emotions, something interesting happens: You start trusting yourself more. And from that place, every choice—hair included—becomes lighter, calmer, and more intentional. Grey Hair Blog Follow Jennifer David’s empowering journey of going grey and choosing authenticity over approval. A celebration of aging boldly, living unfiltered, and embracing the silver within. Jennifer David Meet Jennifer David—writer, traveler, coach, and voice behind “A Broad Perspective.” Explore her journey through grey hair, self-expression, and radical authenticity. Lifestyle Resources

There’s a moment on every grey hair journey when the question shifts from   “Should I?”  to  “Why not me? ” That quiet whisper inside you starts getting louder—nudging you towards curiosity about what you might actually look like with your natural hair. If you’ve been feeling that pull lately, here are six signs it might be time to trust it—and finally ditch the dye and stop coloring your hair. In this post , I share six powerful signs that you may be ready to stop coloring your hair and embrace your natural silver. From breaking free of exhausting salon cycles to reclaiming your time, money, and energy, these reflections will inspire you to live more authentically and confidently. In This Post... ● Tired of the Cycle ● Crave Authenticity ● Done with Beauty Standards ● Inspired by Others ● Reclaim Time, Money & Energy ● Feel a Quiet Yes ● Lifestyle Resources 1. You’re Tired of the Cycle The endless root touch-ups, the salon appointments, the worry every time you spot a silver strand—it’s exhausting. Stressing out and cutting the top of your head out of selfies is starting to feel heavy. What used to feel like self-care now feels like maintenance. If coloring your hair has started to drain your energy, time, or joy… It’s your intuition gently saying, “There’s an easier way.” ✨ You deserve simplicity. You deserve to live unmasked. 2. You Crave Authenticity You’ve grown, evolved, and changed—and now you want your reflection to help show it. You’re ready for your outer self to finally match your inner truth. You want to be in better alignment. Grey hair is like a fingerprint of your becoming—proof that you’ve  lived as you were authentically designed to be, even if only in this way. 3. You’re Done with Beauty Standards You’re tired of a culture and society that equates youth with value. You're over the unrealistic and crave the more natural look. You want bold, unique authenticity. You know beauty isn’t something to chase—it’s something to embody . And you’re ready to define beauty on your own terms . You wonder why grey hair was ever frowned upon because it's so beautiful! ADVERTISEMENT 4. You’re Inspired by Others You find yourself saving posts of women embracing their silver, pausing longer on their reels, and wondering what it would feel like to walk through life with that freedom. That spark you feel when you see them? That’s your soul whispering.  “You’re next.” You don’t need permission—only the courage to begin. 5. You Want to Reclaim Your Time, Money, and Energy Let’s be honest—coloring hair isn’t just about hair. It’s an investment of time, money, and mental space. And if you’re starting to think about what else you could do with those precious resources— travel , self-care , creative pursuits —you’re already shifting into alignment with what’s next. This journey is about more than hair. It’s about where you want your energy to flow . 6. You Feel a Quiet Yes Even if you’re nervous, even if you’re unsure, there’s a calm inside that says, “It’s time.” I don't care what others think; this is what I want for me. You don’t have to be 100% ready —just willing. Because freedom doesn’t wait for perfection. It begins with one brave decision . Ditching the dye isn’t about giving up—it’s about  showing up . It ’s choosing presence over perfection, peace over pressure. If any of these signs resonate, maybe this is your moment. Your silver story is waiting—and it’s beautiful. 📸 Share This Journey If this post spoke to you, save it, share it, or tag me on Instagram: @embracingthesilverlining You never know who needs the permission you’re about to give yourself. Grey Hair Blog Follow Jennifer David’s empowering journey of going grey and choosing authenticity over approval. A celebration of aging boldly, living unfiltered, and embracing the silver within. Jennifer David Meet Jennifer David—writer, traveler, coach, and voice behind “A Broad Perspective.” Explore her journey through grey hair, self-expression, and radical authenticity. Lifestyle Resources

There’s a sentence I heard for years—sometimes whispered, sometimes shouted: “But grey hair will age you.”   As if that’s the worst thing  that could happen to a woman.   But let’s be real: I used to believe it, too. Before I decided to ditch the dye , that fear ran deep. I was always told I looked “so young for my age,” but was it just with dyed hair? Compliments like that can feel like currency for us women, especially in a culture that’s becoming more and more obsessed with youth.   But when I met Leon, who is 12 years younger than I, the fear got a little louder. Not that I’m new to the age difference thing; my ex-husband was 10 years younger than me as well. But as I have gotten older, I’ve been more concerned about those years becoming more noticeable . 18 months into my natural grey hair grow-out journey with Leon in Hua Hin, Thailand, September 2024 I worried about how I would look beside him. Would I seem “too old” to be with him? Would people judge me? Would HE stop seeing me the same way if I let my grey hair shine through? Would he still be attracted to me?   Spoiler alert: he didn’t flinch. In fact, his support helped me find the courage to do what my soul was already calling me to do.  Embrace my authenticity. Leon and I on the Princess Regal during a transatlantic cruise in April 2025, celebrating 6 years together, 4 years travelling full time (44 countries together!), and 2 years into my natural grey hair grow-out journey, all during this month! Facing the Fear: Grey Hair and the “Invisible Woman” Myth Let’s talk about what’s really going on.   The fear of grey hair isn’t just about color . It’s about our visibility. Our value, position, and perceived identity in society.   So much of our conditioning tells us that as we age, especially as women, we fade. That we lose desirability. That our beauty has an expiration date , and it’s somewhere around the first sign of silver hair, which is silly in itself because many women first notice a grey hair far under the age of 30 ; we just don’t realize it because so many women choose to hide their greys from first sight! But here’s what I’ve learned: Youthful energy isn’t something that you color in—it’s something you own. It’s in your fire , your freedom , your presence . NOT your pigment. 1 year into my natural silver hair grow-out journey, March 2024, in England I’m now two years into my grow-out journey, and yes—people do comment less often that I “ look so young for my age .” And yes, I AM actually two years older now than when I first started this journey—there are shifts that naturally start to happen, especially around 48 to 50. But the biggest shift isn’t my appearance—it’s the societal association that grey = old; therefore, I no longer look ‘young for my age,’ and old = less. We can never truly look older or younger than our age because our age is what it is. It cannot be changed. Therefore, this is what I look like at 50 . Not older. Not younger, but MY 50. This is 50 ON ME. ADVERTISEMENT This is the narrative I’m passionate about dismantling. And friend, there’s so much work to be done .   The Liberation of Living Unfiltered! Since ditching the dye, something incredible has happened .   I feel more radiant . More confident. More authentic. More me. Not because grey hair magically fixed anything, because there was nothing to be ‘fixed,’ but because choosing authenticity over approval set something free in me. I stopped trying to fit into the outdated mold of what a woman “should” look like, especially the ‘for her age’ narrative, and started showing up in my full , authentic design . And here’s the beautiful twist: When you live authentically and unfiltered , your real energy starts shining. 2 years into my natural gray hair grow-out transition, and I couldn't feel more confident! Not despite your age, but BECAUSE of your lived experience, your presence, your power, and walking and owning that fully. If You’re Wondering, “Will Grey Hair Make Me Less…?” To the woman asking, “Will gray hair make me less beautiful?” “Will it make me less dateable?” “Will I lose something if I let go of dye?” 6 months into my grow-out, about to make my YouTube debut with THIS hair for the first time. I was still feeling very insecure about what OTHER PEOPLE might think about my grey hair.  I see you. I was you.   And my answer is this: Grey hair will not make you less . It will simply make you more. More magnetic. More rooted in self (see what I did there, ha!) More free.   This isn’t about going grey to prove a point, but it sure can be! The more women who embrace their natural grey hair, the faster and more normalized it will become for future women in society, and that’s a brilliant reason to say bye to hair dye! It’s about choosing your truth over fear.   So, if you’re standing in front of the mirror, wondering if it’s time— The wonder is your sign. Curiosity is your sign. This is your sign. Your beauty and evolving self don’t need permission, but sometimes it's nice to receive it. So here you go. Permission to let go of societal pressures and let it GROW! And you know, your bright, sparkly silver light most certainly DOES NOT need a filter (aka hair dye).   Let THEM see YOU . Let YOU see YOU . Grey Hair Blog Follow Jennifer David’s empowering journey of going grey and choosing authenticity over approval. A celebration of aging boldly, living unfiltered, and embracing the silver within. Jennifer David Meet Jennifer David—writer, traveler, coach, and voice behind “A Broad Perspective.” Explore her journey through grey hair, self-expression, and radical authenticity. Lifestyle Resources

Thinking about a big chop to embrace your grey hair?   Remember, it’s more than just a haircut. Just like it’s more than just grey hair. As I’ve learned from my amazing silver-haired community, the transition to shorter hair can be just as challenging as embracing your actual grey hair can be.  So, take your time and choose what feels best for you. In This Post... ● Are You on the Chopping Block? ● Common Growout Complaints ● Where are You in Your Journey? ● Revamp and Transform ● Things to Consider ● Will I Do the Big Chop? See More... ● Recommended Products ● Embracing the Silver Lining ● Jennifer David on Closer Lives ● Lifestyle Resources Are You on the Chopping Block?   Ok, so not only are you well on your way into your natural grey hair grow-out, but it’s been approximately 6 months of walking in confidence and trust in what is to come. Ok, yes, and maybe we hid in hats, used root spray, and wore headbands and scarves and tried twisty, cutesy hair twists and styles you’d normally never wear. Maybe you ‘gave up’ and dyed it again. Now you have tried it a second time. You’ve experienced the "What the heck am I doing?" phase.  You’ve probably questioned how you ever thought grey hair was for ‘old people’ and that SILVER  was boring?! You’ve probably realized that you haven’t disappeared like you feared you would! You’re getting a lot of attention, good and bad. You’ve probably been questioned tons of times.  You got YOUR FIRST COMPLIMENT! You’ve probably realized grey hair is NOT  wiry, and all those flyaways on others weren’t broken old hair; it IS NEW GROWTH  hair! Baby hair! You wonder how you ever thought this way about hair, age, and women? And then you start waking up. You’ve canceled plans because just NO , you can’t go ‘like this’!  You’ve documented your progress, you are adjusting to seeing this new color next to your skin, and you’ve been keeping your eyes on the silver prize by finding inspiration from those in the journey just ahead of you.  Maybe you are already shorter, and the light at the end of the tunnel seems to be nearing. Do you go a little shorter to get rid of the dreaded demarcation line (the harsh line between the new growth hair and the previously dyed hair)? This can be very drastic and harsh for some people or much more subtle depending on how you were coloring your hair before ditching the dye. Your transition will be complete! Pixie cuts are super cute, you keep telling yourself, and go looking at shorter hairstyles on silver hair. It could work!? It’s just hair; it’ll grow back, you tell yourself. After all, having been through this hair journey, I’m sure a change in haircut length or style should be a no-brainer, right?  WRONG. This is the second biggest pivotal time of the silver hair grow-out journey. The Most Common Grey Hair Grow-Out Complaints Having now experienced and witnessed many a grey hair transformation, the 2 most common complaints  I have heard from other women, by a mile, are trying to color match, blend dye, or lighten or highlight the lengths . This causes more color confusion (initially or after a month or so) and more damage and dryness to their hair, leading to more frustration with the process (and yes, some women are very satisfied with their results as well; the choice is yours—I’m just sharing the consensus!) Next is regretting doing the BIG CHOP! If I had a dollar for every time I thought about doing this, I’d be rich (well, maybe not rich if it was in Canada , but... ha...). Looking back at old photos of myself, the few times I had shorter hair in my life and thought, ‘It wasn’t so bad’ (it was so bad I’ve never loved having shorter hair on me, but I have always loved change). My hair grows fast . It’ll grow back in no time! This 19 months of growout feels like a lifetime already, and I’m barely at the shoulders... I could try bangs.  Bobs are cute and trendy.  This is where I think you should pause . Take some time to sit and feel the feels. No spontaneous decisions or actions are recommended at this time.  This can be such a challenging phase, but hear me out: it’s hard enough to transition into a new color, especially grey hair, but then a new drastically shorter cut too sounds like risky business to me ! And if you’re doing this hair transition in your late forties like I am, there are already so many changes happening to our bodies and appearance that are beyond our control that maybe it’s good to transition with ease.  ADVERTISEMENT Where Are You in Your Journey? It truly depends on where you are in your journey . I’ve chosen to embrace my grey hair, aging face and skin, sun spots, and wrinkles and to celebrate aging .  I want to control the narrative around my personal experience with it all. I believe we should boldly face our fears. Scared to show your natural, bare face in public? Try it in baby steps; start by going to the post office with no makeup!  I refuse to allow anything or anyone to get in the way of me living boldly and showing up as I am in every phase of my life. Even more so as I get older. Revamp and Transform The very last thing you want to do is YOU WANT TO REVAMP AND TRANSFORM yourself and your look, which I am a huge advocate of!   I LOVE a GOOD REBRANDING, both physically and philosophically! Heck, I chopped off all of my dark hair  and went for a short blond bob because I wanted a drastic change , so I was happy with it overall because that’s exactly what I wanted.  But this journey for me is a bit different. I am embracing my natural authenticity here with my hair journey. It's about accepting me as I was created and designed, so making massive changes isn’t what it's about for me. This time. It’s an unveiling. Your hair.  Your choice.  Your body.  Your voice.  Isn’t it wonderful that we have a choice?  Don’t you feel blessed that we have a voice? Things to Consider Before Deciding on the BIG CHOP   1. Evaluate Your Personal Style Preferences Think about how you truly feel about short hair vs. long hair on yourself. Do you love your long hair, or are you genuinely ready for a shorter style? Consider if a big chop aligns with your personal style and comfort level. 2. Understand the Transition Commitment A big chop may accelerate the transition to grey but also comes with its challenges. Ask yourself if you’re prepared for the immediate change, or if you'd prefer the gradual transformation with trims. 3. Consider the Texture and Maintenance Shorter grey hair may have a different texture; it could be more coarse or wiry (however, my hair has been softer and silkier like a newborn baby’s hair!), and it will require a new maintenance routine. Be ready to experiment with products to keep your hair healthy and manageable.   4. Prepare for Emotional Responses The big chop can feel liberating but might also bring unexpected emotions. Embracing grey and a shorter length simultaneously can be a lot, so think about whether you’re emotionally prepared for both changes.   5. Acknowledge It’s Not Irreversible—But Takes Patience Hair grows back just as long and thick (we hope!), but a big chop is still a commitment that can take a while to undo. No ponytails, hair buns, etc. If you do decide to go short, know that it is reversible, but you may need to practice even more patience if you later decide to grow it out again. Will I Do the Big Chop? ✂️ I won’t be doing a big chop . I’ve had long hair for most of my life, and I prefer it on me. I also love watching the progression and having something to keep track of. It’s nice to have something to look forward to! Plus, sharing the journey here has been wonderful! After 19 months of growing out my hair, I’ll maintain trims and cuts, but I’m here for the full grow - out.  Yes, even though I just turned 50, I am keeping my hair super long because this is how I like it! Remember, embracing your grey hair is a journey , not a destination. 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